Should I be jealous of the ring my fiance gave his ex wife when they were engaged?
>niecee asked:
This is my first time being engaged, but my fiance has been once married in the past. Now, he asked me to find out what my ring size was, and let him know. Come to find out he bought his ex wife a ring when they got engaged, and personally took her to get it sized to fit her finger perfectly. Don’t you think he treated her better when they got engaged. should I be upset, or am I freaking for no reason?
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ex boy friend
I think you are reading too much into this, and if something as trivial as how he got your ring size versus how he got his ex’s brings out your insecurity and jealousy, I would suggest you do some deep inner-reflection and conversing with your fiance’. He was married before, they are divorced. You knew that from the get go, so you need to accept it, and his love, or move on.
EDIT: Garnet Glitter is right on! To have her taken in to have it “perfectly fitted to her finger” means he didn’t know her size, or bother to find out. He asked you. Besides you are two different people, or do you want him to treat you like his EX rather than the woman he loves and wants to marry?
ex wife
So he’s gonna surprise you with a ring instead of you not being surprised by going with him to have it fitted…..
Sounds like this time around it’s gonna be far more romantic, right?
If the fit isn’t perfect it can always be sized later.
So quit yer belly-aching..sounds like the man is putting a lot more thought & planning into this engagement.
apologize writing
Freaking for no reason. The first time he got engaged, he probably didn’t know anything about ring sizing. If you know your size, there’s no need to get it “perfectly sized” … but if you do feel the need to, then ask him to take you to the jeweler to check your finger size. There’s no need to be jealous of his past relationships. After all, he’s with you now.
ex wife
How controlling was his ex-wife? I know some women that control the whole process of becoming engaged, picking the the ring and the place to buy it, everything. If she was more controlling and you are more laid back he may feel you wouldn’t mind him doing all that independently.
Also, after he buys the ring and proposes he can still take you to get fitted properly.
If it really does bother you then you could always ask him (in a calm, non-judgmental way) why he went about the engagement with you and her differently.
letter to ex
Don’t worry how he got his ex’s ring size. That was a different person and a different relationship which is NO MORE. Don’t harp on the fact that he has an ex. Forget about it. His relationship is with you not her and harping on it will just keep her fresh in his mind. Make your relationship with him about YOU and HIM not YOU and HIM and HER!
Many people have ex’s and you can’t worry about past relationships. Worry about your own relationship and keep it healthy. Be happy, not jealous. Jealousy never adds anything positive to a relationship.
ex wife
I don’t know your fiance, but I think he wants to surprise you with something better.
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letter to ex
If you are going to be this neurotic over something so trivial, my suggestion is to refuse his proposal. You will always be second guessing him and ultimately your marriage will fail. Pass him buy and get involved with someone who doesn’t have an exwife.